Why consider swinging?
I am having a terrific time writing articles about how fun sex can be. I have been asked, why swing? Taking excerpts from our favorite authors Ed and Dana’s “Consider Swinging” here are the top ten reasons to swing.
Remember Swinging is recreational sex. Responsible non-monogamy. Many couples go bowling for fun and recreation; swingers have sex for fun and recreation. Here is how it can work:
Enjoyable company. Swingers are the kind of people that are exciting and fun to be with. They are happy, honest, vibrant, intelligent, attractive and very friendly. Swingers enjoy being swingers all the time. The club environment is a shared freedom, but swingers are great fun at parties, picnics, movies, dinner, ball games and any place people go for fun and recreation. Everything’s better when shared with wonderful people. The next time you see a group of couples laughing and having enormous fun, you can
wonder … HMMM are they swingers?
Reason # 9
A very healthy lifestyle. Most swinging scenes discourage heavy alcohol consumption, prohibit drug use and can provide good cardiopulmonary exercise. Even the experts say a good sexual episode uses 250 calories. The best way to stay healthy, keep on that diet and avoid colds is to know there is a social event coming up soon. Swinging will get you out and about more often than any other hobby. When we first joined a club we thought we would go to 5-7 parties a year. We ended up going every weekend. Our family wondered where we met all these new friends.
Reason # 8
Play dress up. Yes! Finally an environment that gives you the opportunity to wear those daring dresses and leather lingerie. You can shop the adult catalogs and stores and have a place to show off. You will not get arrested, assaulted or laughed at. Most women and men enjoy dressing up and strutting their stuff. Many clubs have theme nights so you can dress in costume. But even if you do not like costumes, dressing to impress and dressing sexy is so exciting. I never knew that at my age I could wear short skirts and stilettos and be sexy.
Reason # 7
Getting your fantasies fulfilled. Two ladies? Three men? Same sex? Intimate moments with a stranger? Being watched? Watching others? Large piles of anonymous flesh? If you can fantasize about it, the swing lifestyle can help fulfill it. Swinging is about consensual and discreet participants hosting your fantasy. Knowing you can stop the play at any time gives you courage to try new tings. You may even learn new fantasies. We were in a group play one time and while I was sitting on my husband face, I was giving another man a blow job. Just before he came I pulled out and he came all over my breast. WOW I had no idea I would like that so much. It is my new favorite thing to have done.
Reason # 6
Improve your sexual technique. You and your partner may be very adept lovers but you don’t know what you don’t know. Some things need to be seen and experienced, not just read about. At an after party play time there was a lady who made my husbands eyes roll back into his head. I thought Holly Crap! I need to learn what she did. If you knew there was something that would blow your partner’s mind, wouldn’t you want to do it? The experts (whoever they are) say that there are as many ways to swing as there are swingers. So get out there and learn some new techniques!
Reason # 5
Staying “attractive” is good for you. Nothing provides more motivation to stay on a diet, or exercise, then the prospect of a swing party. Many times we stop maintaining our attractiveness when we settle in a relationship. If we want to be “swappable” we need to shake that up. This is not always just about looking like a “10”, attractiveness is about the attitude of a “10”. Many clubs are very specific about how you must look in order to attend, but many others are about diversity. Not everyone can look like Barbie, and I am thankful for that. I like diversity in size, shapes, ages and sexual practices. Be attractive in your attitude and you will have many successful sexual encounters.
Reason # 4
Satisfy your appetite for variety. You probably have a loving, wonderful, sexy partner but why limit yourself? Big muscles, big boobs, shapely butt or pendulous penis: blondes, red heads, brunette or bald; on top on bottom on the side … it is all out there. Life is a smorgasbord of delights. Step up! We are very eager whenever we make love with each other. In all our years together that has not dimmed at all. However, we like different things also. Not just watching others play on a porn film, but actually playing a part. Seeing, touching, smelling and cumming in live 3-D, is very exhilarating.
Reason # 3
Good friends. Nothing outside your own family is more valuable than friendship. If you are one of the lucky ones, you have a few really good friends. Stick around swingers for a while and you will find several more. This intimate lifestyle is the perfect venue for meeting other couples that truly share your interests and approach to life. Not all encounters lead to long friendships. Some couples and singles you meet are “get in, get off and go home.” Others become extraordinary friends. You know their families, do things outside the swinging community, and are connected to their “secular” life. We have friends we travel with, share family outings with and are involved in their lives. Then we also have the benefit of sex, it is all good.
Reason # 2
Better friends. The sad truth is jealousy, envy and similar sexual issues break friendships among couples. The second best reason to swing is the positive effects it can have on friendships. There is no reason to hide your desire for your friend’s partner when that desire is openly welcomed. There is no reason to be fearful of your partner having an affair behind your back when you enjoy watching and joining in. It is fantastic when everyone is relaxed and real, the sexual tensions are removed from the friendship.
The top reason to consider swing is:
“The couple that plays together ….” You have heard talk of “non-monogamous” lifestyles. This is different. If swinging were just about freely having sex with other people it would not need a special name. What makes swinging special is that couples do it together.
There are very few things that draw partners together better than the social and sexual sharing of swinging. You may be thinking that you might not want to share your partner with someone else, consider that when you and your partner go to the movies together, you are not sharing them with the movie; rather the two of you share the experience of watching the movie. Shared experiences are the building blocks of a strong relationship. I am not suggesting you share your partner with “anyone.” I am suggesting that you share with each other the joys of experiencing other people mentally, emotionally and physically.