- Two couples sharing partners
- One couple and an additional person to form a threesome
- Group sex - as the name implies, a group of people, not necessarily comprised only of couples. Typically group sex is a somewhat private affair, participants must ask to be included, or be invited in.
- Orgy - group play where people can simply join in if they want (proper etiquette always applies).
I have read that the divorce rate for swingers is significantly lower than the general population (some say as low as 7%), and that seems to be the case in observing our circle of friends and family.
The way that swingers play is as varied as the number of swingers who play:
- Straight - each person only plays with someone of the opposite sex
- Bi - people include same-sex play. The level of interaction between people of the same sex can vary widely.
- Closed - couples pair off in different rooms, so spouse aren't together in the same room when playing. This helps each person focus only on their play partner.
- Open - Partners are in the same room, often on the same bed. Many couples like to watch each other and share the experience.
- Voyeur/exhibitionist - Some like to watch or be watched.
- Some include toys, porn and other stimulants
- Many include aspects of other lifestyles in their play, such as slave/master, bondage spanking, etc.
How do swingers meet potential partners?
- Local brick and mortar swinger clubs
- Swinger parties and off-premise clubs arranged by a facilitator
- Ads on swinger websites such as Kasadie and Lifestyle Lounge
- Swinger and clothing optional cruises, such as those hosted by Couples Cruise
- Swinger and clothing optional resort groups, such as those produced by Dream Pleasure Tours
- Online groups in Facebook and other social media
- Local and regional meet and greets
- Illegal drug use is discouraged.
- All potential participants must be in agreement as to whether they will play and how they will play. There is no coercion or 'taking one for the team'.
- No means no. Any participant can stop the action at any time if s/he is uncomfortable.
- Cheating is still cheating - Most couples have boundaries or rules that they have agreed to. Sneaking, lying and cheating is still against the rules. Most couples will not knowingly play with cheaters.